Do you feel hurt, undermined or controlled?  

Are your attempts to please an impossible task? 

Are you caught in constant power struggles?

What if you had the steps to overcome this? Would that feel great?


Private and Confidential Domestic Violence & Abuse Consultant for Individuals   

Janine Lee, Principal

What does a healthy relationship look like for you?

(approx. 3 minutes)

"Knowledge is power - it provides us with options"

Janine helps people to keep themselves and their families safer through:

Help that is tailored specifically to you

  • Private & confidential consultation
  • Individual & family safety planning
  • Affidavits for court and evidence gathering so you don't have to keep re-telling your circumstances

Emotional Abuse: a hidden, yet terrifyingly ‘normal’ experience


Do you know “1 in 4 women and 1 in 6 men have experienced emotional abuse by a current or previous partner since 15 years of age”?

Are you questioning what your future holds?

  • Together we can work out a plan right for you
  • in your own time
  • at your own pace
  • YOU make the DECISIONS that suit you with my support!

Janine's Experience

I remember that day like it was yesterday. It was 7 years ago now and I felt this sense of complete, utter despair. I simply had no energy left and at times I believed I had no options, there seemed no way to make the abuse stop. The emotional hurt was almost a physical pain.


I kept saying to myself, “HOW DID DOMESTIC ABUSE HAPPEN TO ME? Where did this come from?”

You see, my partner was an upstanding member of our community, highly regarded, a professional. He was very well respected for his many contributions to our local city.

I felt no one would ever believe me….

I was so ashamed. Here I was, a senior Detective in the New Zealand Police having worked for years on high-profile domestic violence homicides across the country, successfully managing complex criminal investigations …. yet I couldn’t speak out about the alarming abuse happening to me at home.


Because the handful who were aware didn’t know what to do and there were no private domestic abuse specialists I could turn to for help – you see they simply haven’t existed up until now.

As an experienced investigator this was the point I truly understood the utter devastation domestic abuse causes – not just to me, but to our children as well.

“My own experiences taught me our children are not witnesses to the abuse, they too are victims of the abuse. It wasn’t something any of us spoke of or were taught about.”

In the end I left, but I couldn’t do it alone despite years of incredible resilience, strength and specialist knowledge. I learnt that I too, needed support when faced with an abusive relationship.

The initial time of physical separation gave me a moment to breathe…

… so I could begin to put the strategies in place in my own life that I knew so well from working with others to keep them safe.

It was never going to be easy, but the good news is I haven’t looked back since.

With help and support you too can achieve this.

Confidentially Creating a Happier & Healthier You!

Contact Janine in confidence

It’s much more common than you think…

Domestic abuse can happen to anyone, just like it did to me. It doesn’t matter who you are. Regardless of your age, where you live or how much you earn, domestic abuse doesn’t discriminate in anyway, nor does it care about your religion, disability, sexual preference or gender.

Now I help people, especially women to keep themselves and their families safer by providing high quality private and confidential domestic abuse safety planning and support services tailored specifically to their personal needs.

What I know is these strategies do work!

It just takes time and lots of understanding. I would highly recommend:

  • Getting support from a specialist where you can.
  • Leaving can be a very dangerous time – if you are thinking of leaving an abusive relationship, safety planning is so important.
  • Familiarise yourself with what controlling and abusive behaviour may look like, e.g. “put his hands on my throat … didn’t mean to … apologised later … promised it wouldn’t happen again.”
  • Increase your knowledge – what does high risk look like for you? Did you know stalking, recent separation or attempted separation and strangulation are all high-risk indicators that can lead to serious harm?
  • Do you know what a healthy relationship should look like? I would encourage you to take my short quiz. It will only take 3 minutes of your time but it could your change your life.

Trust and Confidence

“As difficult as it is for you to share your experiences, let me assure you, there is very little I haven’t already heard or helped others manage over the years. We don’t make these things up, we simply don’t – in fact we more than likely minimise what we share with others.”


Building trust and rapport is a vital part of this process. “It is so important to take the time to get to know our clients, to go at their own pace. It doesn’t matter how many times we have to travel down the same path together. If the same thing comes up time after time, that’s OK, it’s all part of the journey, taking one small step at a time.”

Your relationship might not be what it seems